A lot of people ask me how to create resolutions that last because they’re frustrated that they find themselves stuck in the same place year after year with certain goals – even with having the best of intentions and setting achievable goals that seem totally doable in the moment. Goals they really really want! Some have been wanting them for decades! Yes. Lets stop that stuckness right now.
I’ll start by saying that before deciding what you want for the upcoming year, it is absolutely essential to reflect upon and learn about yourself and your patterns so that you don’t repeat the same mistakes and find yourself in the same old rut – again. Not doing this is why many resolutions fail.
It’s only in knowing what we do right now that we can choose how to do things differently, or choose what patterns to keep and which to let go of. Doing things differently when something isn’t working, and keeping up the things that actually serve us, is how we create better experiences in our life – and lasting happiness too. Yummm right?!
That’s why I want to share with you my personal list of favorite Year-In-Review Questions to help make sure your whole being is prepped for making 2013 the Best Year Yet. I’ve found that I create the most success in my life – personally and professionally -when I take the time to reflect on the past with the intention of learning and growing (and not for ruminating or lamenting!).
While creating goals and setting intentions are an important part of actively creating a kick-ass New Year, I’ve learned that BEFORE we do that, we need to reflect on what the hell just happened to us in the past year so we can approach the next year more skillfully and with deeper wisdom.
I believe this is why “resolutions” are now often seen as clichéd and de-valued. People usually enter into resolutions without mindfulness, true emotional investment, reflection on what would really make a difference, and a solid plan. Those things are the difference between a “good idea” and a “goal.” (You can substitute “goal” for “resolution” if the word has negative connotations for you).
I’ll write about super-helpful tips for your 2013 goal-setting in the future. But starting here is an essential part of building a good foundation for your next year.
After years of doing this every December, here are my favorite questions to ask myself. Have fun doing this! You are going to learn and grow from it, which means you’ll be far less likely to make the same mistakes and be more able to create your ideal life. Juicy, baby!
Pick a time when you have some quiet, uninterrupted space, light some candles (I’m into candles;), pour a glass of your favorite beverage, take a few moments to breathe deeply and calm your mind, and start in on creating the life of your dreams!
12 Essential Questions to Review Your Year – and Learn To Make 2013 Your Best Year Yet!
1) What am I most proud of from this past year?
2) WHO helped me achieve that – and did I thank them?
3) WHAT helped me achieve those things (habits, systems, choosing helpful mindsets, letting go of toxic relationships, etc)?
4) Who (or How) was I BEING in my life when I was most content this last year (confident, laid-back, present, slowed-down, adventurous, generous, healthy, compassionate…)?
5) Where could I have invested more energy (and “energy” means time, money, emotions, attention)?
6) What blocked me from investing that energy?
7) How can I remove some of those blocks/obstacles for 2013?
8) What and/or Who did I take for granted in 2012?
9) How can I honor those people or things more in 2013?
10) What did I do to nourish my spiritual growth (retreat, regular practice, new supportive relationships, etc)?
11) Was it enough? If not, how can I add to that?
12) What was my take-home lesson from my most intense or powerful experiences in 2012? (Everything happens for a reason!)
Please share your thoughts or responses with our Tribe below. When you write things down – and share them – they take on even more power. If you’re shy, feel free to simply journal or send them to me via email as well. I’d really love to hear from you!
Have fun reflecting on your past year. It’s a truly valuable and simple Jedi skill: to actually learn from our past!
(And if you’re interested in a really awesome way to make 2013 your Best Year Yet, keep an eye out for announcements of my 2013 Freedom Sessions Mastermind Group : 6 Epic months of building confidence and courage, a sense of adventure and purpose, live events, ongoing personal coaching, group training sessions, structure for creating your goals and achieving them, and more. All with a small group of badass Freedom Junkies like you;)
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